The More the Merrier!
Tips for Hosting Groups in Your Fantasy Suite
You’ve got a sexy new adult playroom (a Fantasy Suite!), some curious friends, and a fast-approaching Friday night. This is a tale of planning, intentional connection, and pure unadulterated fun. I’m talking of course about hosting your very first group sex night in your brand-new Fantasy Suite.
A magical evening where your friends leave their inhibitions at the door and open their minds to a night of intimacy and exotic sexual connection. But as any seasoned group sex host will tell you, it's not all fun and games. Well, actually, it is mostly fun and games. But planning a seamless evening of erotica takes careful planning so that all parties feel comfortable and safe. So sit back, relax, and let’s explore the refined art of hosting a memorable sex party.
Planning your group sex party
First and foremost, the key to the ultimate sex party is planning. Don't wait until the last minute to invite your guests or arrange activities. Start planning at least a week or two in advance, so you have enough time to gather supplies, set up the sex toys, and prepare your space. Planning in advance will give you time to adjust if you encounter any unforeseen issues.
Consider your guest list
Selecting your guests is easily the most important consideration in planning your sex party. You want to invite people who know their own boundaries and feel comfortable with each other. Your guest list can make or break the orgy, so consider the invitees' dynamics. Over time, this will only become easier.
Eat, Drink, etc.
Have plenty of refreshments, alcoholic beverages to take the edge off, and small bites to snack on to keep everyone energized and satisfied throughout the night. Think simple snacks like chocolate-dipped strawberries and other tasty noshes that are light on the digestive system and easy on the breath. No need to impress your guests with overly-fancy showcases that require hours of preparation. You’ll also want to stock up on basics like condoms, lube, hand wipes, and towels.
Set The Mood
Another critical sex party planning factor is creating an atmosphere that sets the proper tone. Use lighting that is sensual and appropriate to the space and theme. Unless you’re getting into some doctor roleplay, there’s no need to have Emergency Room lighting throughout the space. You can also incorporate candles and incense if it’s safe to use them. Create a playlist of great tunes to keep the mood sexy and themed. All of these mood elements will help make your guests feel attuned to experiencing intimacy in a group setting.
Setting a precedent for consent
Everyone has different boundaries, so communicate standards for safety and consent before any physical touching begins. Have a rough idea of what you, as the host, will say to the group to set boundaries. Keep it simple but clear. Recognize that there may be both couples and individuals participating, along with both novice and experienced participants.
House Rules
Remember to let everyone know where they can find water and the bathroom. Mention whether phones are allowed in the playroom or not. Set your own personal boundaries – will you allow people to perform golden showers in your sex room or not? Is anything in the room that is off-limits? Clearly communicate the house rules to all participants before things start getting physical. A dry erase board may be useful.
Breaking the ice
As the host, it's your job to keep the action moving along, but allow enough space for the night to flow organically. Keep an eye out to make sure everyone is feeling safe and comfortable. However, there are bound to be moments of awkwardness, especially if the group is mostly first-timers. That’s why humor is going to be your best friend. Be prepared to break the ice if necessary and encourage your guests to mingle and get to know each other with group activities.
When it comes to activities, keep it simple. For example, you can never go wrong with a humorous icebreaker, a cocktail hour, or a sexy game to get everyone laughing. Remember, a group sex party is all about having fun.
Here is a list of icebreaker games, both physical and mental, that will help your guests open up:
Two Truths and a Lie (sexy version): Each person takes turns sharing three statements about themselves - two that are true and one that is false. The rest of the group has to guess which statement is the lie.
Would You Rather: Preplan your questions to keep them topical. Ask each person a series of "would you rather" questions, such as "Would you rather be tied up or you rather do the tying?" or "Would you rather be caught in the act by a cop or your in-laws?"
The One Word Game: In this game, each person shares one word that describes their kink, sexual personality, or current mood. The rest of the group can ask follow-up questions to learn more about the person and their chosen word.
Kinky Truth or Dare: You know the drill. Write out these prompts beforehand so the game doesn’t take up too much time.
From here, action will start to unfold naturally. With plenty of space to watch, chill, have sex, and explore in your Fantasy Suite, everyone will feel comfortable doing what they like.
Winding down
As the host, it’s your responsibility to decide when to wind down. Let this time be known when you invite people. Then, give them a 30-minute warning and a 15-minute warning before it’s time for them to get dressed and head home.
As the host, this is your time to get feedback and hear people’s ideas for next time! Now that they know you’re the friend with the ultimate sex playroom, they’re sure to have tons of fantasies and ideas coming your way. Thank all of your guests for coming and sharing a sexual experience. You can choose to have a closing circle or to leave things more casual.
Expect to learn a lot in your first experience hosting an orgy in your sex room. You’ll learn what you did well and what you could do better. Some of your participants will likely want to help you host future sex parties as well. Be open to a wild, new experience and enjoy sharing the magic of your Fantasy Suite.
